Talking to the folks

I know that people totally stress about this one.

Here are my thoughts: It might seem old-fashioned but I like the idea. It brings you closer to your soon-to-be in-laws. I just read that you are not sitting down with them for permission- because technically they can't stop you- you are asking for their blessing. I suggest taking his/her folks out to lunch, but if that is not possible you can always call (this option may seem less stressful, especially if you are really nervous)

Who has suggestions?